#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship
Black Girls Heal
Shena Lashey
4.8 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 14 June 2022
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
Pulling from the work of Dr. John Gottman, we talk about the importance of bids and repairs to the health of a relationships.
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| 0:00.0 | My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crooks to get |
| 0:14.4 | more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there |
| 0:19.9 | is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means |
| 0:27.3 | to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy |
| 0:33.3 | disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then |
| 0:38.6 | others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns |
| 0:44.6 | and grow in your software. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin. |
| 0:50.8 | Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Hill. I am so happy to have you with me |
| 1:00.0 | again today on today's podcast. We're going to be talking about the importance of bids and repairs |
| 1:09.6 | in your relationship. So these are terms that come directly from the work of John Gottman who is |
| 1:15.9 | one of the most famous marriage researchers in the world for over 30 years him and his wife |
| 1:23.2 | have been researching couples and what makes them last and what makes them not last and so he actually |
| 1:30.1 | has a lab called the love lab and he and his wife have figured out via their research how to predict |
| 1:38.5 | to 93.6 percent accuracy which couples will get a divorce and which ones will not and it is because |
| 1:48.1 | of just key dynamics and very practical ways that he can tell which couples are making bids and |
| 1:56.6 | which couples are making repairs towards each other and then some other concepts too which we may |
| 2:02.4 | revisit at a later episode but really the key factors or whether or not couples turn towards |
| 2:08.5 | each other or whether or not they turn away. Thanks for listening to this week's podcast. Before we |
| 2:14.7 | get started let's take a small break to say thank you to this week's sponsors. Thanks for listening |
| 2:22.4 | to this week's podcast. Before we get started let's take a small break to say thank you to this week's |
| 2:27.9 | sponsors. With the crazy heat waves we are experiencing this summer especially here in Texas it can |
| 2:34.6 | be hard to stay fresh while you're out and about and that's why I've incorporated the honey pots |
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