My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crook to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow in your software.

I'm Sheena Lache, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill.

I hope that you are doing well my loves. I hope that you are feeling cherished and protected and safe wherever you are because you're deserving of being protected.

You're deserving of being seen. You're deserving of being loved and I just wish that and hope that for all of you today.

So with that said, let's talk about today's episode.

Thanks for listening to this week's podcast before we get started. Let's take a small break to say thank you to this week's sponsors.

Thanks for listening to this week's podcast before we get started. Let's take a small break to say thank you to this week's sponsors.

So today's episode will first actually I am just feeling so much gratitude y'all I love our community.

I love our little family and I just am in love with hearing all of your success stories and how y'all are showing up for yourselves and how your lives are changed.

Every time I get a text or a DM or email or something that just tells me how the podcast or our materials or something has helped or supported you.

It just deposits a little love and some warmth and some care into my life and so I am just grateful for y'all.

I'm grateful for y'all and I'm grateful for just the opportunity to be a teacher for you and a coach for you and a support for you because we need each other y'all.

We need each other. We need that sisterhood and so just happy to be a part of your story and whatever place that I get to be.

So with that said after giving y'all that love today's topic is about being clear with the people in your life about what it is that you need.

So this isn't really going to be focusing on romantic partnerships today even though it absolutely could apply there but I really want to talk about this in the realm of friendships and relational support with our peers and people who are chosen family which are our friendships.

And so the reason why I wanted to talk about this in today's episode like a lot of times I had a whole other topic but watching the trends of what's been happening around me I've noticed so many conversations in my personal life and in the lives of my students and in the lives of people around me where within their friendships and within their relationships they will share something that is intimate or vulnerable.

And the response that they get is not what they were needing to hear either the person did not respond at all in the way that they wanted to or they didn't part or they felt judge they felt invalidated they felt unheard and it just really sourced them on wanting to continue to share to continue to share in general but also to continue to share with that person.

And in me watching these things happen what I have noticed and also what I know is that miscommunication can happen even in the best of relationships and if you're someone who's working on building trust and learning how to be vulnerable and learning how to share yourself.

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