#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
Black Girls Heal
Shena Lashey
4.8 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 15 February 2022
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.
This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually.
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| 0:00.0 | My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crew to get |
| 0:14.4 | more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there |
| 0:19.9 | is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means |
| 0:27.3 | to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy |
| 0:33.3 | disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then |
| 0:38.6 | others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns |
| 0:44.6 | and grow your self-worth. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin. |
| 0:50.8 | Hello ladies and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. So today's episode is being |
| 1:00.3 | released a day early if you're listening to it live because I wanted it to come out on Valentine's |
| 1:08.8 | Day this year. I wanted this episode to come out on Valentine's Day because I know that this |
| 1:16.4 | holiday can be very triggering for many of us for a lot of different reasons, right? So there are |
| 1:24.3 | lots of episodes that talk about loving yourself and making yourself feel special and treating |
| 1:32.0 | yourself and prioritizing yourself. I actually talk about that all the time here on this podcast. So |
| 1:37.3 | this episode is not going to be about that. This episode is specifically going to be for those of you |
| 1:44.3 | who are currently in partnerships or situations or fantasy relationships or grieving past relationships |
| 1:54.6 | where Valentine's Day or your birthday or anniversary day or some significant milestone has come |
| 2:03.3 | along and you have been with partners that did not value you and support you and celebrate you |
| 2:12.6 | and the reasons why you were given that were well the holiday doesn't really matter. It's not that |
| 2:20.1 | big of a deal. It's not that important and while there's absolutely a spectrum of relationships |
| 2:28.1 | where people both sides really don't feel that gives and you know I don't need a special day to |
| 2:34.9 | celebrate you like that is a mutual belief. This episode is specifically for those of us who have |
| 2:44.0 | been in relationships with people who consistently undervalue you and so when days like Valentine's |
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