My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crooks to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy

disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then

others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns

and grow in your software. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. So this episode is inspired by

the latest episode of the New York Tires Presents about the Super Bowl incident. I want to say

this episode 10. I could totally be making that up but if someone talks about the Janet Jackson

Justin Timberlake Super Bowl incident emphasis on putting both names there in the title and this

episode is not about the incident but about my sadness at a lot of different things. An anger at

a lot of different things but my real sadness and watching Janet Jackson be asked and forced

and pressured to apologize so many times for what happened in a way that was unfair and just

targeted and just really being bullied to the place where she got to where she said I'm not

apologizing anymore and I shouldn't have apologized in the first place for this because it was an

accident and it wasn't my fault and watching that I just brought it brought to mind all of the times

that as a recovering codependent I apologized for things that were not my fault that I apologized

for things that were really about other people's hurt feelings that I tried to make myself smaller

and not take up space and kind of coward to make other people feel comfortable and to make other

people feel as if I was a good team player or a good partner or a good family member

even a good service provider just because the intimidation of the stronger forces or their

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