My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crew to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast. We talk about healing or intimacy disorders

and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your software. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. So for today's episode,

I wanted to talk about how do you cope when family and or loved ones that can include friendships,

that can include exes, that can even include associates. So we're colleagues and other people

who you're in close relationship with, how to cope when they think negatively of you. The reason

why this podcast episode topic came up is is actually one of the things that I see often that happens

with women when they start to create boundaries, when they start to show up for themselves, especially

if they have been encoder pendant cycles where they have kind of allowed narratives to be told to

them or that they have just kind of operated and with compliance and now they're saying no,

now they're putting their foot down, now they're verbalizing things that they don't want.

Usually there is a backlash that comes with that unfortunately and the backlash is because

people are not used to this this version of you. And so one or two things will happen. If you're

in relationships with people who are healthy, even if there is disagreement, even if it's

kind of shocking for them, they can hold space for that because they have their own internal

boundaries, they're able to listen and engage. They can hold space for your point of view,

for your feelings and they can adjust. Again, even if it's uncomfortable at first, even if they

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