Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the Primal Potential Podcast. I am Elizabeth Benton.

Let's get right into it. Something I hear a lot in the Primal Potential Facebook group

with my clients in the consistency course in listeners who email me is, why do I always fail to execute?

I can't I get myself to do the thing I said I would going to do. And I have felt this way many, many times in my life.

What is wrong with me? I want this thing and I want it badly and it matters to me and I understand how important it is.

Why do I keep talking myself out of it? Why do I keep letting myself off the hook? Why do I keep making excuses?

You could be level 10 fired up to eat healthy today and come dinner time. It's final start tomorrow.

It doesn't really matter. I don't care. This one thing won't hurt. You could be completely committed to working out and understand that it makes you feel better,

that it's important for your longevity, that you want to be fit and healthy. You could be totally geared up for all of that and still say I'm too tired today.

I'm going to do it tomorrow. I'll start next week. I'm not in the mood. It doesn't really matter. Whatever the reason is.

There is one tool in particular that I've been talking about with clients a lot that I've been using very regularly in my own life and it works.

And it works. Let me explain it to you with an example.

One thing that I have been trying to do for a while now, a couple years, is clean my kitchen every night so that when I wake up in the morning, it feels great.

Not just all the dishes are out of the sink, but the counters are clear. They're wiped down. Everything's put away every night.

And I would be lying if I said that I want to do it all the time. I don't. There are probably more nights that I don't want to do it, that I start to talk myself out of doing it, then there are nights where there's no resistance at all.

Very often, after getting Roman to bed and feeding the twins and washing bottles and all this, the last thing in the world that I want to do is clean the kitchen. Even though it doesn't really take very long because if you're keeping up, you never really have to catch up. So it doesn't take very long, but still. I just don't want to do it.

So here's what I do. I ask myself if I could make myself want to clean the kitchen. How might I do it? Like if there were a perspective that I could have that would lead to me wanting to do it, because I have the perspective of not wanting to do it.

I know what that looks like, but if there was a perspective, a way of thinking about it that would leave me wanting to do it, what would that be? Now, an important caveat here, I'm not asking the question to get myself to clean the kitchen.

Very, very open when I ask the question to the fact that I might decide not to clean the kitchen, but the goal of asking that question is to simply not reinforce a thought pattern of it doesn't really matter. It's not a big deal. I can do it in the morning.

This is a very important distinction. A lot of people will resist this because they think the goal is talking themselves into the thing. It's not. The goal is to think differently because most of us when we are in this place of having clear intentions, but not following through on them, we've got a lot of practice, a lot of repetitions, a lot of rehearsal in talking ourselves out of it.

We are well-worn in the groove of, it doesn't matter, I'll start tomorrow. I don't really care. I'm too tired. I don't feel like it.

So what we're doing here is not reinforcing that groove. We're paving another path for the sake of paving another path, not for the sake of cleaning kitchen, right, or getting in the workout.

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