My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook or crook to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow in your self-worth.

I'm Sheena Lache, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. I hope that this is fighting you well and thriving wherever you are.

So today we are finishing up our series on mistakes that I've made in my intimacy disorders in my relationship history.

Hopefully you have found this series helpful that you've been able to laugh at my pain like Kevin Hart would say or more likely resonate with it and find some solace and not being the only one and knowing that there is healing available for all of us.

There's a way to get us back to start. We all came in with the ability to love freely easily and to receive love freely and easily.

All of us have it and so it's really us just letting go and healing from the things that people have put onto our shoulders and given to us that do not belong to us and narratives that we have adopted to be our truth.

And they're just stories that we can rewrite and we can create based on what we want our life and our relationships to be like. So that is the inspiration and motivation that I shared everything in the series with and also that we are ending with today.

And today's episode is for mistakes made as a love avoidance in committed partnerships and or marriage again the title says marriage just for brevity say so I don't have a 10 12 word title but we are talking about love avoidance and committed partnerships.

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Whether or not they are a year long or 11 years long or 30 years long what does this look like as an intimacy disorder.

And also I'm going to be sharing what is looked like for me personally so while in other episodes I will talk about how this looks like in general.

So that everyone who may relate to love avoidance can be like oh as absolutely me for these episodes where I'm talking about mistakes that I have personally made you may not relate to all of them or you might relate to one of them.

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