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Black Girls Heal

#100: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Avoidant

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 1.8K Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2021

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. 

For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. 

This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented. 

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0:00.0

My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hookah crooks to get

0:14.4

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

0:19.9

just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

0:27.3

to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or it's

0:33.0

missing disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves

0:38.2

and then others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy

0:44.0

patterns and grow in your software. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist.

0:50.1

Let's begin. Hello, hello pretty people and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls

0:57.5

Hill. I hope that you are doing well. This week we are continuing the series of mistakes I made

1:06.5

in my intimacy disorders and different points of my journey and different stages of relationships.

1:14.8

And so for today I want to talk about three mistakes I made when I was dating when I was

1:21.4

active in my love avoidance behavior. So last week I talked about what it looked like when I was

1:28.0

active in my love addiction and in y'all afterwards even though I intentionally have created this

1:35.3

platform in this podcast to help women who have persistent relationship issues and consistently

1:44.2

feel like they are the anomalies to feel like you're the only ones that you're crazy that you

1:49.3

shouldn't be feeling this way that you should know better. Your friends have a better handle of it.

1:55.2

Your therapist has been working with you and things aren't kicking off and you're just wondering

2:00.4

if there's something fundamentally wrong with you. That is why I've created this podcast for us to

2:06.4

know that we are not alone for us to know that everything that we are going through there are

2:12.0

words for it there's language for it there is there's an ability to heal it that's why I've created

2:17.2

this podcast and even even with that being my intention afterwards I had to fight this little part

2:24.6

of me that was like oh that was a little bit too. Thanks for listening to this week's podcast

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