Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So this is a question I get often. What are your thoughts on open relationships?

And I feel like even though I have never experienced an open relationship, I just I feel obligated to share my

thoughts just because of the amount of questions I get under this umbrella of

open relationships or

poly swinging you know anything that's not

monogamous right and I want to say first

although I haven't experienced it, I mean I have thought about what that would be like, if that would even work.

I thought about how I would be in one if it would be healthy or destructive for me and it's all it's

all just really interesting and I know for me being almost 50, I'm not quite 50 yet, I'm 49, I grew up where

monogamy was the standard, I grew up where monogamy was a standard I grew up where you know there was like little

to know talk about anything other than you grow up you you find your one, quote unquote, which I hate that term, and you

get married, and then you have kids and you know, happily ever after.

So I grew up with that blueprint thumb tacked to my forehead. Once I became a therapist

and started to treat and coach couples, I quickly learned that that model can be damaging, right?

Especially when it comes to definitions of love. I also learned in my own personal experience how hard it is to build a relationship.

And I also know that as just humans as beings. Monogamy biologically I don't think is natural, you know, I think

it's a model and so there's a lot of conversations these days right questioning what if we

tried something different what if and also it doesn't have to be anything that's, that's, that's a model today.

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