Your Sexting Is Boring (Here's How to Fix It)

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 17 February 2026

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Sexting sounds simple until you're actually staring at your phone, cursor blinking, wondering if what you're about to send is hot or just... weird. In this episode, I'm giving you the full breakdown on how to text dirty with confidence—because good sexting is really just foreplay with a keyboard. I'm answering your questions about everything from how to build tension with something as small as three dots, to what to do when your partner wants to sext around the clock but you're just not feeling it. Plus, I'm sharing some of the hottest sexts the Sex With Emily community has ever received (you asked, you delivered, and wow). In this episode, you'll learn: • The "past and future" technique that makes writing a sext way less intimidating—and way more effective • What to say when your long-distance partner's sexting pace doesn't match yours (hint: you're allowed to set your own rhythm) • How sexting can actually help you communicate desires that feel too awkward to say face-to-face More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Reach out to enrollment@sexwithemily.com to learn more! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:06 - The "past and future" rule for writing sexts 4:43 - How to use the three dots to build tension 5:34 - Nude photo tips: angles, lighting & confidence 7:35 - Protecting your nudes on Apple & Google 8:41 - The hottest sexts you've sent (community submissions) 10:18 - How to find your dirty talk voice 12:48 - Flirting with a coworker over Zoom & Slack 15:04 - Keeping sexts private when kids use your devices 16:08 - When your partner's masturbation habits change 19:16 - Mismatched sexting energy in long distance 22:35 - Rebuilding trust after infidelity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Remember, it's all about you.
0:05.2	So when you feel sexy, it's a lot easier to make photos that you're going to want to share.
0:10.2	But right now, this is for you.
0:12.0	So maybe it's a bubble bath, a glass of wine, putting on central music, and dancing all by yourself.
0:18.2	Watching a little ethical porn, whatever gets you turned on.
0:21.7	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your
0:27.3	pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. A great sext is all about anticipation,
0:36.9	kind of like foreplay. And as a 21st century way to talk dirty,
0:41.1	sexting when executed well can be super hot. Think of sexing like an art form. Well, in this show,
0:48.5	I give you pro tips for perfecting yours, because let's face it, randomly sending a bunch of squirting emojis it might not be
0:55.6	as sexy as it is just confusing for the person on the other side for sure as with everything in life
1:01.4	good sexing comes down to emotional intelligence so let's talk shop this episode is designed to help
1:08.0	you send your best sex yet and excite the person receiving your message.
1:13.2	Isn't that the point?
1:14.6	Plus, I take your questions like how to start flirting online, how to manage your devices so your messages don't accidentally end up in the wrong place, and how to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship.
1:25.8	Finally, the sex with the Emily community has delivered,
1:29.7	and I'm sharing your hottest sexes. Please rate and review Sex with Emily, wherever you listen
1:36.4	to the show. It so helps us when you rate the show, and we appreciate it. It helps to get out
1:40.5	to more listeners. All right, everyone, enjoy this episode.
1:56.0	When was the last time you had space to feel? With the National Trust, you might just find life standing still under towering trees. Maybe you'll find connection among the stories of the past,
2:04.6	or a moment to disconnect from it all on a mountainside.
2:08.6	Whatever you're feeling, wherever you are,
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