Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self-betterment into a shotglass because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Yes, we get involved with fucked up people who hurt us and have no tools to build anything.

We put ourselves out there only to be crushed, betrayed, and rejected, but the more we blame and hate, the more we will stay stuck in what was,

and like plaque, resentment starts to build and build until it starts to decay our soul and love becomes Santa Claus, we stop believing.

Or more accurately, we become afraid.

And there's a difference between being cautious and making smart choices and being afraid.

Now if we allow our fear to grow, we become our worst enemy. We are now fighting ourselves, right?

We create a wall, we don't allow love in, we dig a moat around our heart castle.

Then we enter the next relationship with emotional stutter.

We overthink, we evaluate, we judge,

we jump to conclusions,

we create poison instead of soil, we love soft. Fear then creates insecurity,

fear then creates jealousy, fear then creates athinking, fear then creates a false version of

view, fear then creates emotional walls, fear then prevents vulnerability. Fear then causes us to react. Fear tugs at old unhealthy patterns. Fear isolates us. Fear keeps us on eggshells, fear closes our heart.

So what do we do? Because look, we've all been hurt, cheated on, ghosted, we all have fears.

The stove is hot for most of us.

So how do we become less afraid?

How do we begin to believe again, to trust again?

How do we love hard when loving hard sent us down an emotional spiral and crushed us?

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