The hard part is that everyone tells you a baby changes everything and I think we don't know how to kind of wrap our heads around how much

motherhood changes you and that change is just hard. The act of change is easy. The feelings that a company change are so difficult.

Cleo Wade is someone who just has a way with words. She's an author and a poet and in her latest book Remember Love, she reminds everyone who may be feeling lost or overwhelmed by change to love.

That self-love is what saves us,

and that's especially true in our journey as parents.

I'm Dr. Becky, this is good inside. There are so many different things I want to talk to you about,

so I don't know, I'll just begin here.

In your recent book Remember Love which is so exciting

You really focus on recovery and you talk about really kind of reclaiming yourself.

Let's start with that.

Well, as I was writing this book,

I kind of, in a way that was very different than any other kind of way I approached writing before is I really felt like, okay, I kind of tried to place myself back to moments in my life where I felt that I was

stumbling around in the dark looking for a light and realized I had to turn it on within myself.

And I tried to figure out how to follow those breadcrumbs and remember that no matter how faint that kind of like feels it is still there.

There's this one page that actually started out as a joke really where I write about how there's the old motel six commercial that's like,

we'll leave the light on for you.

But that actually in some of my toughest moments, whether it was really contemplating repacing my life,

you know, when I found that my life was moving at a pace where I couldn't find or access freedom

and joy even though I was attaining a lot of exterior goals.

And so when I felt that I lost track of myself or I felt that I couldn't feel like

myself in moments of whether that was postpartum depression or or high high key

anxiety I'd kind of hear that voice,

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