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I'm your host and we help women get married and stay married and today I want to talk about Da'a. I'm sure you made Da'a maybe a hundred times, maybe a thousand. Yeah, God, ya, ya, God, send me this, send me that. And maybe right now it's send me a spouse. And you're still waiting, still scrolling, still swiping, still wondering if he even hears you. Here's what nobody's going to tell you, sis.

The problem is in listening of

course he is he says he answers the caller when they call but you're looking the

da'a that he knows isn't good for you mean he's holding stuff back allah

for that today we're gonna break down the one that everything regardless. The da'a that aligns your heart with your habits, your

relationships with Allah, with the guy you need. Because here's the truth. Nobody wants to hear.

Allah, Suhanna-ta-a answers the da'as, but the da'as that you need not the ones you want always unless he needs

to show you something and this is by Allah we cannot decide what Allah is doing let me paint a picture

it's Ramadan you're fasting you're praying tarwi you're making da'a last third of the night

and you're asking Allah subhanama T'a'a'a for a particular person let's say but here's the

question is he really

the right person for you? Well, in your heart, you feel absolutely I need this guy if I can't live without him. But I've been there, says, and that guy wasn't the right guy. But I thought it was in the moment. Allah, Siphanama T'a'a'a'a will give you what is good for you, but also what you deserve. Are you the woman who stays up all night praying in Ramadan, pouring her heart out to

Al-Qarik, the creator? Or are you scrolling TikTok till 1-2 a.m. telling yourself, if I pray for sure tomorrow, maybe I'll be good. Are you the one who pushes through her fast with love and gratitude even when it's hard? Are you the sister who treats fasting kind of like, oh, you know, or a salaala like, oh, I was busy, you know, treating everything like it's negotiable, like it can be worked out, talked out. Unless, no, it doesn't help us all the same way, and it's not cruelty. It's justice. Would you expect a woman who never studied for an exam to get an A and deserve the A? No. What about if you, you're the employee who never shows up to work? Do you deserve a promotion? So why do you think Alessipanamatha Adi is going to hand you the greatest gift on earth? A righteous spouse, a stable home, something that leads to Jenna. You're not even showing up for basic stuff. And I'm not saying that to hurt you. I'm saying it because you came here for help,

right? And the help you need isn't another like, oh my gosh, positive vibes. Like, that's not what you need. You need someone to tell you it's going to actually work, the truth. So here's what I need you do instead. It's very, very easy. You're going to change your da'a. You're not going to be like, you're like, yeah, Rob, give me so-and-so.

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