Your Heart Lies About Your Spouse | Winning the Emotional War in Marriage | Part 2
Established Family Podcast
Derek Palizay
5.0 • 585 Ratings
🗓️ 18 March 2026
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
You cannot trust your heart with your marriage.Your heart will lie to you.Your heart will justify what feels right…while producing what is wrong.Many spouses have become more committed to their emotions than they are to their covenant.They are slow to honor the vow that passed their lips…but quick to defend their feelings, their reactions, and their perspective.And Scripture directly confronts this.In this episode, we break down the biblical reality of the human heart:— deceitful (Jeremiah 17)— defiling (Mark 7)— darkened (Romans 1)— hardened (Hebrews 3)— self-deceived (James 1)If your emotions are not governed, they will become your master.And whatever masters you…will produce fruit in your marriage.But Psalm 119 gives us a different model.David didn’t trust his heart—he trained it.— he sought God with all his heart— he asked God to incline his heart— he stored the Word in his heart— he disciplined his heart to obeyEven in grief, pressure, and real opposition…his emotions never led him into sin.Why?Because he brought them under the authority of God’s Word before acting on them.In this episode, we walk through:• Why your heart cannot be trusted without transformation• How ungoverned emotions distort your view of your spouse• The discipline required to train your heart through Scripture• Why most marital conflict is fueled by unsanctified emotions• How the Word of God renews and governs your soulThis isn’t about suppressing emotions.It’s about refusing to let them lead.Because when your emotions lead, your marriage suffers.When the Word leads, your marriage transforms.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to the Established Family Podcast. Before we hop into today's episode, I want to personally |
| 0:04.9 | invite you to come see my wife and I for a one, two, or three day in-person marriage intensive. |
| 0:10.4 | If you didn't know, Established Family hosts marriage intensives where we sit in a room with you and |
| 0:14.9 | directly guide you through the stages of marriage. This includes going through inner healing and |
| 0:20.2 | deliverance, as well as confronting cycles that have existed inside of the marriage that are still producing |
| 0:26.1 | fruit today. That requires equipping wisdom and understanding with the tools necessary to produce |
| 0:32.9 | a different result than what you may have experience inside of the marriage thus far. When you book a two-day intensive, that includes a four-week virtual coaching package |
| 0:41.4 | where we get to start ahead of time, get to know you, break the ice, see you in person, |
| 0:45.8 | and then continue the progress afterwards. |
| 0:48.6 | If you book a three-day intensive, that includes an eight-week virtual coaching program |
| 0:53.1 | where we can do the same thing. |
| 0:54.6 | So if this is something that you're interested in, go to Establishfamily.com slash intensive, |
| 0:59.1 | and we will see you in person for a one, two, or three-day marriage intensive. |
| 1:03.1 | Let's hop into today's episode. |
| 1:05.1 | Welcome back to the Establish Family Podcast. |
| 1:06.9 | We are in day two, night two, morning two, whenever you're listening to this, of winning |
| 1:11.8 | the emotional war in marriage. I'm really excited about this series, and I want to dive right |
| 1:17.9 | into building off of what we talked about yesterday. Even if you aren't watching this or listening |
| 1:22.4 | to this back to back, this is a build off of the first edition of winning the emotional war in marriage. |
| 1:28.5 | So if you haven't listened to that yet, listen to that one first, and then we will build on top of that with this one. |
| 1:33.7 | Now, today I want to start with a scriptural, a scriptural foundation, a biblical foundation, and make a couple statements here in the beginning. |
| 1:42.5 | So welcome back to the Marriage Academy students. |
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