Your Facebook Friend Said Something Racist. Now What?

Note to Self

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🗓️ 10 December 2014

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

In this week's show, we offer a humble helping hand through a messy digital dilemma.

Your Facebook feed has become the new town square. The new water cooler. The new [insert your analogy of choice]. Sometimes your far off "friends" and relatives share views far out of step with your values. It can get ugly.

“One of my elementary school friends who I grew up with posted a story about hair salons accepting EBT cards," listener Tamika Cody tells us. "Some of her friends started to chime in. They poked fun at how African Americans spoke and how they were 'gonna get their hair did.' By the time they got to the whole 'Chinamen' and doing nails, I just said, 'you know what, this is just too much for me.'”

Tamika quit Facebook.

Before you go that far, scroll down (or click play). We've called in the experts. We've commissioned a survey; consulted a psychologist about how racism on Facebook slips by; collected some personal examples; and we've adapted a tool for healthy dialogue into this handy flow chart for you to pin on your wall, physical or digital.

"LARA" is a strategy promoted by the National Conference for Community Justice (New Tech City/Piktochart)

Some Data for You

We commissioned a survey from the market research company Survata. Of the nearly 300 Facebook users polled, 46 percent have seen a discussion about race show up in their newsfeed in the past month. Almost a third of them say they've considered blocking or unfriending someone over offensive comments about the news.

Things get testy on Facebook. (Survata and New Tech City) The Bottom of the Barrel

Among those numbers are listeners like Vishavjit Singh, who wrote to tell us about the reaction to his 28-second Facebook video, which has been viewed over four million times. Singh, who has a beard and wears a turban, shared what people said to him:

The internet is not always a welcoming place. (Screenshot, Facebook)

Yeah.

We've included a few other examples, and some smart, thoughtful, constructive ways to respond, in this week's episode.

What are you seeing out there, New Tech City listeners? Please tell us (and like us!) on our newly-created... you guessed it... Facebook page.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello friend, this is an episode of Note to Self, but from when we used to be called New Text City.
0:06.6	Same good content, just the old name. Enjoy.
0:10.9	Hi, my name is Rebecca Martinez and I'm from Seattle, Washington.
0:15.4	I'm talking about racism on Facebook and my story is that I had a friend that I worked with.
0:24.6	I recently had a dialogue on Facebook with a friend of mine about immigration and executive orders.
0:30.6	One of my elementary school friends who I grew up with posted a story about
0:37.1	hair salons accepting EBT cards and it just got really uncomfortable because the
0:42.3	post he was making were about Hispanic people and I am married to a Hispanic man.
0:49.2	And some of her friends started to chime in and they made fun of African Americans on the way
0:55.0	that they spoke and how they were going to get their hair did.
0:58.0	A friend of theirs who might have no interjected a picture.
1:03.0	And this was a photo of her current president.
1:05.4	By the time they got to the whole Chinaman thing and doing the nails, I just said,
1:09.7	you know what, this is just too much for me.
1:12.1	A noose was Photoshopped in so now it looks like someone's putting a noose around his neck
1:16.8	and it was entitled Hope on a Rope.
1:20.1	It's what everyone's been waiting for.
1:23.4	Now I no longer see racist comments on my Facebook page because I deleted my Facebook page.
1:31.4	This is New Tech City from WNYC where digital gets personal.
1:36.2	I'm a new summer Odie and those were stories from listeners Rebecca Martinez, Jason Gonzalez
1:42.0	and Tamika Cody.
1:43.8	Things can get ugly out there in Facebook land.
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