Hey there. Welcome back to Heal, Survive, and Thrive. I am your host, Stephanie. And today I want to talk

about something that kind of hits hard, especially if you're healing. We're going to dive into what

happens when your ex moves on before you do. I think nine times out of ten, the people that I'm on

the phone with, this is the case.

It was the case for me.

And why honestly, it feels like you just got got punched.

I mean, let's just be honest with ourselves.

And why we get caught in this like cycle of comparison, wondering where they are, wondering what they're doing, and why they seem completely fine while you're still

here struggling, picking up the pieces. Maybe I think majority of people that I talk to have gone

through a divorce and have to co-parent and you're doing all the hard work and you're raising the

kids and this person can just come and go as they please and

you're in the rut of it you're you're in the trenches doing the hard work so let's start

kind of at the beginning first it is really not about them moving on it's not it. It's about what it kind of triggers in you.

Whether you want to admit that or not, that's okay.

It's going to bring up feelings of not being good enough, not being chosen, and being left.

It just does.

If this person left you, if they didn't leave you, then it's going to stem from some really deep rooted

insecurities. Because if you left with the relationship, then you know this person isn't good for you.

And in some ways, you have anger and resent for what it is that they did in the relationship.

And you feel like they should be suffering in some way. So when you are left,

or really even if you leave the relationship, it damages your sense of worth. It does. This is not a

normal relationship. This is not a relationship where you didn't lose yourself or you weren't dealing with gaslighting

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