Hey everyone. Welcome back to Heel Survive and Thrive. We've got to fix my mic here because this

is a little off. There we go. I'm your host, Stephanie. And today we're going to talk about

something that we all struggle with, whether we're out of a relationship or not, it's just this

obsessively thinking about maybe your ex, maybe your own self, more specifically, why you can't

stop thinking about them.

This can sometimes happen, even like post-breakup, post-divorce, whether you're obsessing

about, like, where they are and what they're doing and if they moved on or maybe you know,

you know, what's going on with their

life because maybe you have to co-parent but it's been months it's been a while maybe it's even

been years and they still kind of like come into your head every now and then maybe you still

have dreams about them but the thoughts still kind of loop maybe the hurts still lingers a little bit and it's still kind of there.

And you're wondering, you know, what's wrong with me? And you might feel like you're crazy.

You might feel like you haven't really moved on yet. That might be kind of the stories that your

mind is telling you. But I want to just stop right there. You're not crazy.

You're just stuck.

There's just like a little part of you that feels stuck because when we go through these

relationships, I don't care if it's been two months, six years, five years, it doesn't

really matter the length of time.

What is important to understand is how traumatic your situation has been. And you don't have to,

you know, have gone through something horrific in order for trauma to stay with you. It can be

something small, but it can be significant enough that it's still there because healing takes

a lot, a lot of time.

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