Your Dating Reset: How to Be Actually Single to Date Better + More Securely
Morning Rae
Allana Blumberg
4.3 • 525 Ratings
🗓️ 23 February 2026
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
#256. If dating keeps feeling confusing or emotionally draining, this episode is your reset.
Lan shares what it really means to be actually single, building a full life on your own, breaking chasing patterns, and learning how to date from self-trust instead of attachment. You’ll learn how to set clear standards, pace connections, spot real interest early, and stay grounded while dating.
This episode is about dating with intention, protecting your peace, and creating secure, calm connections that feel mutual and easy. Enjoy! x
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, good morning and welcome back or welcome to Morning Ray. I'm your host, Alana or Lan. Today's |
| 0:12.8 | episode is something that I've been sitting on for a hot minute. You guys always ask me in my Ask Lan advice columns on the pod on socials. I swear like the most amount |
| 0:24.0 | of questions are geared towards you guys wanting to know like, okay, if I'm dating, like, |
| 0:30.9 | dating advice this, dating advice that, and all of it. So I thought together I could consolidate |
| 0:37.4 | essentially. If I was single again, |
| 0:40.1 | God forbid. I hope I'm never single again in my entire life. But if I was single again, |
| 0:45.8 | this is how I would date. And this is essentially what I did last year. And I think I was pretty successful and finding my boyfriend and being in a |
| 0:59.1 | healthy, happy relationship now. I decided let's put an episode together. Let's essentially make |
| 1:05.9 | a dating for dummies guidebook, Hot Girl 101, How to Successfully Date. And I think my qualifications |
| 1:15.9 | are I was the chronically, is it chronically? Yes. Chronically single friend for forever. |
| 1:23.9 | I was always in and out of situationships and I had a habit of picking emotionally |
| 1:31.2 | unavailable partners now that we look back and reflect. This is what I changed and this is how I |
| 1:36.3 | broke the pattern. Truly made things work finally and bettered my relationship with myself in the |
| 1:43.1 | process. So tune in, open up your notebook, |
| 1:47.7 | grab your pen and paper, and let's get right into it. Okay, so this might seem a little counterintuitive, |
| 1:54.6 | but I want you to actually be single. Break the freaking cycle. Stop being desperate. You don't need a man, a partner, whoever. |
| 2:02.8 | For 30 days at minimum, I want you to delete your dating apps. I want you to not be initiating. |
| 2:10.9 | So no liking stories, no sliding in on stories, no sliding into DMs, no texting the guy that's always in your chat. |
| 2:18.7 | You know, I know you know the one. Literally, like, you're on a cleanse. You're on a, you're on a |
| 2:24.0 | male dating cleanse, okay? And I really want you to get comfortable with being truly alone, |
| 2:32.6 | not getting any sort of serotonin from a DM and notification from a boy, |
| 2:38.1 | a Snapchat, whatever it is. I want you to truly get so comfortable with being alone that it becomes |
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