Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today I want to talk to you

about the story that you tell about your dating experiences. Before we get into that, I want to share with you

my free guide called copy and paste texts for when he's pulling away or acting flaky. The link for

that is going to be in the show notes of this episode. You can also find it in the bio of my

Instagram page, which is my first and last name, Amber Grubenman.

So let's talk about the story that you tell about your dating experiences.

This is really important because it's not just the story that you tell other people,

but it's also the narrative that you choose to create for yourself.

We have circumstances that we come

across in dating, many different people that we meet, many different personalities and different

ways that they choose to show up in our connection, and different ways that our beings interact

with each other and what they create.

And these circumstances are neutral, meaning that different people could tell a different story about them.

But so often we don't realize that we are choosing to tell a story about our dating experiences that makes us feel

like garbage and makes us feel like something's wrong with us, something's wrong with the world,

something's wrong with other people, and it makes us feel more disempowered and more negative

and more heavy going into dating instead of less.

So I'll give you an example that came up with a client recently who joined the From Dating

to Exclusive Coaching Program. And we had our first one-on-one session. And she shared with me

a mindset that I don't think she yet realized was a mindset.

So she shared the fact with me that she was going on a series of mediocre dates.

And so that is the kind of thing that most people don't realize is a thought that I'm going on mediocre dates or I only ever meet

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