You're Probably Apologizing All Wrong

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🗓️ 15 June 2021

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

We all screw up. What comes afterwards can make or break a relationship. In this episode, psychologist Harriet Lerner shares her tips for apologizing well and moving forward.

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0:00.0	I would like to try out a few different apologies and see how they land.
0:06.7	Here's apology number one.
0:09.0	I'm sorry, but...
0:11.9	No good.
0:13.1	I'm sorry you feel that way.
0:16.4	Terrible.
0:18.4	Okay, here's one. Maybe this'll work.
0:20.7	I did this thing and I knew it was wrong and I'm sorry.
0:25.3	Well, it has promised as a beginning, but as a total apology, no good.
0:34.1	That's clinical psychologist Harriet Lerner.
0:36.8	The author of Why Won't You Apologize?
0:39.0	Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.
0:41.8	Harriet has spent years studying the nuances of forgiveness
0:45.6	and the ways it can make or break a relationship.
0:49.2	I'm sorry if...
0:51.4	Bad.
0:52.4	No.
0:52.9	Okay, I sound like a terrible school teacher.
0:58.0	I'm, you know, I feel like these are the kinds of apologies we're hearing out in the world.
1:02.7	How about this?
1:04.1	I'm sorry for anyone I may have heard.
1:07.5	How does that sound? Does that work?
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