Hello and welcome back to Practicing Human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little better at life.

I'm your host, Kory Muscarra, and in today's episode we're going to talk about why you're okay, but it may be time to change.

More to come on that in a moment.

First, let's settle in together with the sound of the bells. So the process of growth, personal development often holds a paradox because in one way as we've talked

a lot about on this podcast you're okay exactly as you are on the deepest level there's nothing fundamentally wrong about you.

In another way you might need to make some changes in your life, and most of us often need to make some changes.

And so when you're born, there's no idea anything that that needs to be fixed. We could call

this your essential okayness and it's a pure and beautiful space to inhabit and there's huge healing potential and reconnecting to that space which is why I

emphasize it a lot on this podcast of resting in your innate wholeness or connecting to the part of you that doesn't have any ideas of things being wrong or needing to be fixed.

That part exists deeply within you and it's powerful and important.

As you grow though and integrate with the world, which happens from a very early age,

you do need to adapt to certain standards and expectations

and ways of relating to the world and with other people that might not come naturally to you at your core,

your whole, but you also might not have the slightest idea of how to hold a conversation or

how to be productive or how to be patient or how to be productive or how to be patient or even how to thrive in a

romantic relationship which we don't really get a blueprint for when we're born.

So our process of growth holds both of these realities.

When we lose touch with our okayness, there's this incessant need to get someplace else in order to be fulfilled. Once I have that, then I'll be happy.

But when we lose touch with the need to change, we disconnect ourselves from the realities of the relative world,

which can cause very practical daily disharmonies in different aspects of life.

If we just start thinking, okay, I'm perfect as I am

and then don't work to change certain quirks

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