Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So if you're going through a breakup, I want you to know that you're not getting over anyone.

Healing isn't about getting over anyone.

I actually loathe that term. It's dismissive of the love that was built and yes I understand

many of us have been in toxic relationships but hurting people wasn't the intention, right? I mean we all go into things with

open palms and trusting hearts. We all hope and dream and love to the best of our

ability with wherever we are in our lives and when we constantly tell

ourselves that we need to get over someone we are erasing we are ripping out we are

white knuckling, we are minimizing, rushing, and dehumanizing ourselves

and the person we shared a life with.

So you're not getting over anyone.

You are learning, you are growing,

you are establishing a better relationship with yourself.

You are sitting with pain and maybe for the first time in your life.

And through that, there is softening and acceptance

and learning how to forgive. Your heart is not broken because hearts don't

break, they stretch. Hearts are not plates. They are muscles with soul.

And they stretch so we can love harder, we can love deeper,

and we can give ourselves a new love experience.

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