Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.

I want to remind you that all information on the show is for educational purposes

only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

And I want to just tell you something that if you've ever been emotionally abused, physically

abused, sexually abused, any type of the abuse that falls under a category that causes you to suffer.

I mean, pretty much that's what abuse is.

Any intentional actions from someone else that causes you to suffer can often be placed in the category of abuse.

But we could talk about how to pick apart what is abuse and what isn't,

but what it ends up being inside your head, inside your mind,

and inside your body,

because your mind and your body remember even if you don't.

And what I mean by that is sometimes we carry the memories of what happened to us,

but not necessarily cognitively, not necessarily through the regular systems that we are normally reliant upon.

And let me kind of demystify that what I just said.

Sometimes you can have a body memory of something that happened to you

that you're not carrying in a conscious way.

Like when you think what happened to you when you were three, for example, you may not have a conscious memory of it, but the body remembers. And I don't

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