XYBM Clips: Black man, you’re carrying too much again
Express Yourself Black Man
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🗓️ 4 March 2026
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In XYBM 151, I open up about a season I recently went through where I genuinely felt abandoned by God — and the uncomfortable truth I had to face about what was actually happening beneath that feeling.
I talk about what it looks like to shift disagreements before they turn into destructive arguments, how betrayal trauma hits men differently when you’ve been cheated on or crossed by someone you trusted, and how to heal without becoming hardened or passing that pain onto the people you love.
If you’re in a season of spiritual and mental growth that feels heavy or confusing, this episode will meet you there. Tune in on all podcast streaming platforms, including YouTube.
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| 0:00.0 | For some of us, man, we struggle with discernment because we lead with our penises when it |
| 0:06.8 | comes to relationships and just keep it stacked with y'all, man. |
| 0:09.2 | I'm not here to lie about anything, right? |
| 0:11.5 | So discernment is important because it helps you to identify, all right, this is a person |
| 0:15.0 | I should be spending time with. |
| 0:16.2 | It's a person I shouldn't be spending time with. |
| 0:18.5 | But because we lead with our penises, our discernment gets skewed. |
| 0:24.7 | Because your penis don't have no discernment. |
| 0:28.7 | All your penis knows is like, yo, listen, this is the first time I'm attracted to. |
| 0:31.7 | So that's the same thing as someone I should be spending time with. |
| 0:34.6 | For real, for real. |
| 0:36.0 | But everybody that you attracted to is not the same. That's not the same as somebody that you should be spending time with, for real, for real. But everybody that you attracted to is not the same, |
| 0:39.9 | that's not the same as somebody that you should be spending time with. |
| 0:42.3 | They shouldn't be in the same bucket. |
| 0:45.0 | Attraction is like part of the spend time with bucket, |
| 0:48.1 | but it's not the whole bucket. |
| 0:49.4 | But when you leave with your penis, that becomes a whole bucket. |
| 0:52.2 | And so now you're dealing with people that you shouldn't even be dealing with if you had proper discernment up here. But because you was leading |
| 0:59.5 | with down here, there's no proper discernment. So discernment is very important. Dick discipline, |
| 1:04.3 | very important. Sexual discipline, very important. I could be attracted to you, but you still may not |
| 1:08.7 | be the right person that I should be in relationship with. And so I had to put you over here. Boom. Just by way of that, you put, |
| 1:15.5 | you've protected yourself naturally from betrayal while not pushing the right people further away. |
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