You could do something about being hurt.

Deciding to stay hurt is a whole different thing.

So now since I got cheated on, everybody after this person, I'm going to hurt because I'm hurt. You're deciding to stay hurt. Making a decision to be hurt, it doesn't matter what happens. Being hurt, it's like, all right, look, I notice that I'm hurt, I see that I'm hurt, I'm going to do something about it. Bro, one thing I always do before I come to any podcast episode, before we do any podcast episode, I always pray on the way here. And I always pray that the conversation facilitate healing because I think it's so important for us to have these conversations, one, and just be open. So one, first of all, I feel honored that you still came. Yeah. Because, like, that shows that you value the platform and the work that we do. But second of all, bro, I just wanted to make sure I say this. Like, I hope you take some time to, like, really, you know, just process and feel. You know, I hope you don't like just keep pushing and grinding. Because

sometimes we do that. You know what I'm saying? And we use that as an excuse not to like deal with the emotions that come with that. Because if you're talking about your grandmother, like, y'all had that type of relationship, you know, that's, that's a, you know, it's a, it's a lot. You feel me? It's a lot. So not saying that you got a soak in it.

No.

But just, you know, just's a, it's a lot. You feel me? It's a lot. So not saying that you got a soak in it, but just, you know, just process it and feel it, bro, for real. A lot of people have been telling me that, bro. Yeah. Like, I ain't even going to hold it. 2025 ain't even been fed. Like, you know, I just lost one of my men a couple days ago. Then I lost my grandmother two weeks ago. Then I lost my God brother a month ago in a motorcycle accident. Then I lost one of my close friends at the end of last year. Then I lost one of my other close friends last summer. So it's like, you know, I've been dealing with like death back to back, but it's like, man, you know what I'm saying? I haven't got time to get over the last one. So it's like, damn, I'm trying to go through this way and grieve accordingly where I got all this stuff going on because literally everything that I do, entrepreneurship, is connected to my livelihood. So if I don't do this show, if I cancel this show, I don't pay my bills. I don't take care of my kids. Right, right, right, right. And easy when you got broken homes and you got to take care of the mothers or they're

going to be right here with you.

Yeah. So it's like, all right, cool, I need to do this. I need to do that. But it's like, now I'm still trying to grieve and then boom, another death comes. That's it gets to it to you. And it's like, name, you know what I'm saying?

One of the deaths there, like, it was my man that died last year at the end of the year.

And like, it's like, all right, cool. To this day, it's still a fact I saw so much in him, so it's like, if he can't make it. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? I don't know nobody over 40 that's successful. Really? So all magnet is either they grind in right now or they did. So it's like, I'm like, it's like one of them things is like, you know, we was advocating for kids, we were trying to stop the boundaries, we doing this and you get killed the very way that you was trying to stop. So that's like, now, you know, let me go ahead dip out of D.C. right quick.

Yeah.

Now I need to get my mental, my mental right. Even that, boom, soon as that happened. Somebody else died. Boom. Somebody else, that's like, then once my grandmother down, I'm like, I ain't even deal with all the other jams. Yeah. And then as my grandmother died, it's like, boom.

Somebody else died.

It's like, yeah. And then as soon as my grandmother died, it's like, boom, somebody else died. It's like, damn, I'm like, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this was being grown, grown is. Yeah. But I got so much of an outlook on like, you know, we, we, we have this possession on people, right, that we hold to us. don't, we only promise life and death, you feel

me? Like, we don't, we don't own, you know what I'm saying, anything right now. You what I'm saying? So this borrowed time. So it's like, I'd be just chucking it up with, like, man, you just got to make sure you love the people that you're around. And at the end that they just have it in the back of your head that, look, one day you're going to leave.

Yeah.

You feel me?

So, I don't know if it's one of them things where it's just a detachment for me or if it's, you know, a safe guard for me to be like, you know what, I love you enough, but I love you enough to know that I can't get two clubs because you won't leave. And I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing.

You know you dealing with textbook? You know what attachment styles are? No. No. Okay. So attachment

styles are like the way that we, we, uh, the way I always explain attachment styles is there's two

different forms of like, there's two different aspects when it comes to attachment styles is there's two different forms of like there's two

different aspects when it comes to attachment styles it's intimacy and there's individuality right so

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