Do we have an epic episode for you? For men secretly drugging their wives to AI-created fake people that you actually end up falling in love with to women being pushed into open relationships they never actually agreed to? So the question is how do you know when you're being lied to or manipulated? Well we break down the trends, expose the traps and reveal the truth so that you never fall for it again. Welcome to Women of Empath live, I'm Lisa Bilyu, let's get into it. Christina, welcome girl. What's going on? Back in the hot sea. Back in the hot sea. And it's a hot hot day with a lot of hot topics. Yeah, I mean, a lot of things happening. The number one thing that a lot of people are talking about right now, though, is Christy Nomes Husband's Secret. So in a surprising new controversy that has the internet buzzing, leaked photos have surfaced online that apparently show Christy Nomes Husband in a compromising position. We bring this up not to be salacious, but only because I think a lot of women get blind cited sometimes by their husband's secrets. So we have a clip. All right. And just quickly, who is Christine Ohms in case people don't know, because I thought she didn't really know who she was. Yes, she actually used to be in charge of the Department of Homeland Security. has since been moved to some other position, but that's why people know her. OK. And so play the clip for context. Former Homeland Security Secretary Christy Nome is responding to allegations involving her husband. She says she's devastated after claims. Her husband shared photos of himself cross of himself cross dressing online claims also led she interacted with people in a fetish community. Noam's team is asking for privacy and prayers. The couple has been married more than 30 years. They have three children. Noam says her focus right now is on her family and moving forward. She left her post earlier this year after backlash over her handling of immigration and border policy. All right. I find it hard to believe that after being married to somebody for 30 years, you wouldn't know something like that, but maybe. I don't know. I mean, his thing, think of, Jenna, what's her name? Uh, Christiana. Oh, literally. Yes. Yes. How much do you know? How much do you, so just for context, we didn't want to show the picture because again, we're not trying to be salacious, but this is something that so many women actually go through that it was important for us to talk about. So this photos of him basically wearing fake boobs, taking photos of himself. So he is, has all of his Let's just put it like that. I think that is so common. And I think that look, there's going to be two parts to it. We're going to see whatever we want to see that fits on narrative as self protection. And your partner is going to say whatever they have to say in order to make sure that they paint a picture of them being perfect. And sometimes you can stare something so, like, in front of your face, and if you're not open to seeing the truth, you're not going to see it, whether you want to or not. So you know that song was me, Shaggy? Someone will deny, deny, deny, and you know, unfortunately a lot of manipulators would turn it into,

what do you mean, you're imagining it, you're going crazy,

and now you're spiraling into thinking, well, so I imagine I'm a God of compil, I ever thought that my husband was a trans, you know, transgender or whatever, I'm not saying he is, but like, is dressing up in ladies clothes. Yeah. There's gonna be a thousand things that maybe go on behind the scenes. The question is, anyone at home right now, how do you make sure that you

don't get trapped? That you don't somewhat be manip- I don't know if he has manipulated her. Well, yeah, and we also have a poll. I mean, like, what do you do in this situation when you get blindsided by a secret? And in here's the thing, there's so much shame to self-shame and sometimes societal shame around sexual things. So we're gonna put a poll up.

Do you leave immediately and don't look back? Do you stay and brush it off or do you therapy to talk it out? Yeah. The shame thing is actually really powerful. I think that is something that so many people hold and especially now that it's gone out there.

So just even paint a picture. Maybe she wants to forgive him. Maybe she's like, look, he didn't cheat on me. Yes, he was cross-jess dressing and we're working through it. And I don't mind. I worry that part of the impact on their relationship and their dynamic will be what the outside world says. And I think that's why a lot of people and women stay in the shame. and they don't share if someone has cheated on them or abused them because they don't know

if they're going to leave.

And if you share that piece of information and you don't leave, now you know people are going to judge you. And even when I say people, let's be honest. Unfortunately, it is going to be women that are going to judge you for staying. Yeah. No, you're 100% right. And yeah, the comments comments so far the irony is I believe they have very conservative values So yeah, I mean it's unfortunate like it's none of anyone's business what people decide Consenting adults decide to do behind closed doors if you want to dress like that like and it makes him feel good and satisfy. He's not hurting anybody like it's your life, do it. But you have made kind of an infographic to talk about sexual. And infographic. Oh my god. Showing your age. Oh my god. All right. So I just had on the episode hasn't launched yet. I literally just interviewed her. She's a former escort.

I'm trying to think of the polite word that she uses.

So she actually calls herself a hooker.

But like she's a former escort,

10 sexologists and intimacy coach.

So she's, that was her part.

She realized the power of intimacy.

So she went and studied it.

And this I believe comes from Jaya, the sexologist, but there's different types of sexual blueprints. And I think that if anyone's at home listening right now and you happen to find out that your husband's dressing as a woman, like whatever it is, has fetishes. The way to avoid that, right, because that's the goal, is bring up the sheet. Okay, so guys, there's five types of love languages for sex. We all know love languages in your daily life, words of affirmation, gifts, attention time, right? That's love languages. This is your sex love language. Now, what you need to do is go through and identify which one you are and then sit with your partner and identify which one they are.

Because let me just read them out loud. So you've got number one, you've got central, which means that you crave slow, full body experience. You want to experience everything. Then you've got kirky, which is basically the things are a bit to boo. It's a bit about power play, things like that. Then you've got number three, which is sexual, which is just driven by four, War physicality, which is like, let's get it on right now.

And then you've got energetic, which is like the super tension and the anticipation. Like yearning. Yeah. Like the energy throughout the day where you brush past each other. And then you've got the shapeshifter. The basically can become one or all of them. I was just gonna say, I was like,

depends on the day.

That's amazing.

Is it Tuesday? Let's do this. It's a Thursday. Yeah, what mood are you in? So the thing about this is just like with love languages, you have a primary, you could have a secondary in the head. Yeah. So the reason why I wanted to bring this up is because I think in order to avoid something like this,

I don't want to shame the man for cross dressing.

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