When we're trying something new and we're caught up in the moment and we're aroused,

it's hard to really get comfortable. It's hard to be embodied sometimes because you're like, is this right? Does this feel good to you? Feel good to me? But if you could practice and be like, you know what would make this position really comfortable if I took a pillow and put it under my knees or under my head or under my back or on my stomach. And so you can kind of play around with

what kind of props and positioning works when you're not in the moment.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily. Here to help you prioritize pleasure and

liberate the conversation around sex. Producer Erica and I are back tackling the questions

you're wondering about, but afraid to ask out loud.

Like whether you're wrong for wanting your partner to be smoother in bed when trying new positions.

Why you might be taking on shame that isn't yours when your partner rejects your advances

and what to do when your fiancé keeps sharing intimate stories about you with your friends,

this episode is about getting honest, setting boundaries, and figuring out what's fair to expect from your

partner and yourself. If you've ever wondered if you're the problem, stay with us. Let's get into it.

This is from Anonymous and she's 28 years old. Am I the asshole for wanting my partner to be

smoother in bed? Hello, Dr. Emily. My boyfriend and I've been together for almost two years

now and he's an amazing partner and lover. However, our sex life is not always consistent.

Our sex life has been improving over time.

We communicate our sexual needs to each other in ways we can improve, but it seems whenever we try

new positions or techniques, things get awkward because he is constantly adjusting his position,

or he'll get a leg cramp, or he'll see him not enjoying it as much as he would like me to.

We seem to have missionary down really well, but I get bored of doing the same old position.

Trying new things always seems to lead to awkward movements and me getting turned off or him losing his erection.

I could use your help on figuring out how to prevent sex almost always being really awkward when we do a position other than missionary.

I wish our sex can feel more flowy and natural without him feeling he needs to think so

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