Our cultural narrative is wrong because monogamy is really a much, much tighter shoe for women.

And I found that also, you know, anecdotally among men and women that I interviewed.

So, yeah, there's a lot of our beliefs about sexuality, especially the gender difference.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, here to help you prioritize your pleasure

and liberate the conversation around sex. I'm joined today by cultural anthropologist Dr. Wednesday

Martin, who's here to talk about non-monogamy. We talk about what the research actually shows

about female desire in long-term relationships, how to navigate opening up your partnership with intention and clear rules.

And what it looks like when you decide traditional monogamy isn't the only way to build

a life together.

This episode is about expanding what's possible, understanding your options, and making choices

that honor your truth, not just what you've been told you should want.

If you've ever been curious about this path, stay right here and let's get into it.

Before we get into this amazing interview with Wednesday, I want to share some rules that she

actually put in place in her relationship when it became non-monogamous. We didn't get to this

in the episode, but I wanted to share it with you now. So number one was no kissing. She said, that fell by the wayside after a few months, which, by the way, just so you know, it's good to have some rules when you start, but the couples who are successful in opening up a relationship often adapt and change their rules as they go. Okay, her second one was condoms, and she says we've

always stuck to that. Number three, sex only, no feels, so no feelings. And she said that fell by

the wayside pretty quickly too. Number four was in our house is okay, but not in our bed. Number five,

always check in and keep the other informed. So check in with each other, how it's going,

maybe after the date or maybe like in the middle of the date or the next morning. Just keep checking

in and stay in. Number six was do whatever I want without checking in or permission while traveling.

So traveling, they were able to do what they want to do. So those are her rules she wanted to share.

Also, we're going to have some great resources on this topic, which we will include in the show notes.

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