You know that moment as a parent when your kid does something objectively minor but super annoying,

like ask you the same question for the fifth time or they spill something right after you poured it

again.

And you have a reaction and you tell yourself, well, it was annoying.

But you also kind of know there was something else going on for me.

I had a pretty big reaction to this

situation. And part of you might be thinking that just escalated really quickly. And then later,

things are calm. And you have this thought, like, why did that get so big? And maybe you have actually what I think is a

beautiful thought. What's going on inside me? I think so many of us go into parenting, assuming

the hardest part is going to be managing my kids' behavior. And then pretty quickly, we realize

the hardest part is managing my kid's behavior. And then pretty quickly, we realize the hardest part is

managing my own behavior about my kid's behavior. And this is what we're going to be talking about

today. Emotional maturity. What does that really mean in real life? And how it's not the same as

being calm or patient all the time. And how actually it's all about these tiny everyday moments and then actually what we do or do not do after.

Dr. Lindsay Gibson has spent years helping people understand their relationships to their own emotionally immature parents.

I just had her name again.

I know you're excited because you

probably read her popular book about being an adult child of an emotionally immature parent. And

I'm having her here now to talk about how to raise emotionally mature kids. I'm Dr. Becky,

and this is good inside. I'm so glad you're here.

Dr. Gibson, you have spent so much of your career addressing kind of adult children of

emotionally immature parents. I just want to start by asking you, like, what made you shift focus at this point to

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