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The Motherkind Podcast

Why you're resentful in your relationship—and how to fix it starting today, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

The Motherkind Podcast

The Motherkind Podcast

Parenting, Kids & Family

4.8837 Ratings

🗓️ 21 November 2024

⏱️ 49 minutes

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Summary

When it comes to the mental load it can be very easy to feel like our partners aren't dragging their weight, and so often this results in feelings of resentment towards them. So this week we've brought in the incredible Dr. Morgan Cutlip to give us her best advice on how we keep those feelings at bay. Dr. Morgan is a mental load and relationships expert who joins us to show us the best ways of approaching these feelings with our partners. She shares the root cause of the inequality that so many of us feel when it comes to the mental load, the domestic load, and being the default parent. She tells us what to do if our partner gets defensive whenever we mention the mental load, and the best things to say when that happens. By the end of this episode you'll have actionable steps to rebalance the load and to feel less resentful. Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations’ and gain access to a free 60 minute masterclass with Zoe - teaching the core principles of the book. This show is proudly sponsored by Stokke Shop Sambucol at Boots.com Sign up at gohenry.com/motherkind, and get £5 FREE pocket money to get them started, plus the first month is FREE! Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Welcome to this episode of Motherkind. It is me, your host, Zoe, and we are proudly sponsored by Stoker.

0:15.1

This is the show that's going to help you navigate the massive challenges of modern motherhood

0:19.0

by bringing you world-leading experts to give you a new toolkit for new times.

0:24.6

Now, I don't know about you, but this time of year, creeping towards December, that I start to feel panicked and rushed and behind.

0:32.4

And everyone else seems to have presents already, which is just wild to me because I usually do all my Christmas

0:38.4

shopping in a panic on the 20th of December. Everyone seems to have plans for new years that I'm speaking

0:44.1

to. I have none, zero idea what I'll do. And I just feel behind. I also have both my girls' birthdays

0:51.2

in December. And so it is hectic. And I feel like my mental load,

0:56.5

just the number of things that I've got to do with the girls at home, it just quadruples.

1:03.3

And I'm going to be honest, it is so easy for resentment to come in with Guy, my husband,

1:09.4

where I feel like I'm having the most intense, stressful

1:13.3

month of the year and he's not. So I've brought in an incredible guest today to help us. Her name

1:20.4

is Dr. Morgan Cutlip. She is a mental load and relationships expert. She's written one

1:26.5

incredible book on the subject and is about

1:29.1

to release a second. Now, I discovered Dr. Morgan on Instagram with this video that she made called

1:35.0

Why You May Feel Lonely, even when your partner is around. And that resonated with so many mothers,

1:49.5

15 million, in fact. And in it, she talked about not feeling really seen, your needs, not feeling important to your partner, not being able to bring

1:54.9

something up without being met with defensiveness. And just this feeling of your partner,

2:00.4

just not caring about how you're really doing. And I was

2:04.8

reading the comments under that video and this feels like such a universal experience. So in this

2:11.1

episode, we talk about all those things and what she shares with us is gold. She shares the root cause of the inequality

2:21.1

that so many of us feel when it comes to the mental load, the domestic load being the

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