Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

All right, there are two things I want to say before I start today's episode.

And one of them is it doesn't matter how old you are if you want to tackle some difficulty in your relationship.

And I understand there's a certain point where you get to a certain age where you feel

like you may not be able to do anything about what's going on in a relationship that is

challenging to you. And I'm here to say that I've heard from people in their 70s, maybe not so

many people in their 80s, but 70s and up. I've heard from people that have changed their

life by getting out of a situation or changing the relationship that they're in in some way by

speaking up. Mostly it's when they're at that age, mostly they get out of that. They usually

don't hang around. I've often found, and maybe you have too, that older people, a lot of them

are stuck in their ways.

That doesn't mean they're closed minded.

It just means some people feel like, oh, I'm too old to do anything about it.

And I'm here to say that don't ever think that you're too old to try to make changes that

you need to make because just imagine if you don't try then nothing will happen.

I'm a proponent of it's okay to try. Some people say there is no try or don't try do. I'm okay with

let's try this. Let's try it because what's not working now needs to change.

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