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I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thanks for joining me for an episode of love and abuse.

I got an email recently that just made me tear up.

And I get a lot of really hard stories to digest.

And this one was very hard to digest because there was physical abuse involved.

In fact, the person who wrote said that her partner broke her jaw.

I mean, it's just, it's so heart-wrenching to hear this.

They've had a long relationship, and she told me of their history together.

And though she didn't share too much, there has been issues.

But then suddenly he's insecure and talking about her coworker and how they look too buddy-buddy and now he's calling her a liar that she didn't know anybody too well at work.

And it was just ridiculous to read that this guy that she's with suddenly just turned on her and became this insecure, jealous, possessive person.

And the very first thing that came to my mind, I mean, this is before I read the part where he broke her jaw, which still kills me.

The very first thing that came to my mind is people project what they do.

People project who they are.

And so when you are being accused of somebody who's highly insecure and jealous and saying,

you're doing these things, I know it,

and you're a liar, and I don't believe you.

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