Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.

If this is your first time, then how can I say this?

I'm sorry that you have to tune into a show like this.

At the same time, some people will tune in just to find out what kind of behavior is healthy in a relationship.

So not everyone's in a control and your manipulative relationship.

Some people want to know if their relationship is unhealthy, toxic, abusive, and others like this person who wrote to me, I've got it in front of me right now, who said, I think my marriage has been unrecoverable for a long time,

but I still find myself hoping for a miracle when we get along.

I think when you are in a state of, I hope it gets better, I don't think I've ever heard from

anyone who says, I hope it gets better, and then they write back and say, it got better.

Unless the person that was very difficult or controlling or emotionally abusive went through some sort of transformation or a program like the one I run healed being or they went to therapy.

Something had to have happened. Something majorly different because we bring ourselves into the relationship and if that's who they are,

then that's who they are showing up as because that's who they are.

So they may have started off differently.

They may have started off as kind and caring and supportive.

And then things changed. The honeymoon period supportive. And then things changed.

The honeymoon period ended.

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