Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Okay, here we go. Getting to your questions as soon as I can. A lot of times I will think of some kind of tip that has helped me in any way throughout the week.

And I think today I'm just going to get straight to your questions because I have so many.

Okay, one, someone asks, why would a women cheat after eight years

and blame their partner?

Why do women cheat? Cheating isn't a gender thing.

And you know, I just want to point out,

there are many reasons why cheating happens and

sometimes cheating, I'm not saying it's okay,

but may not even be about you or or

well let's go through some of the reasons

because I don't think we think about this

because when when someone cheats on us of course we're going to take it personally

of course we feel betrayed and we instantly think it's just because the relationship's bad. Now obviously like if this was

family feud and and I forgot who I forgot who host family feud I mean I know

it's changed many times but the the host says top five reasons why people cheat.

Of course, one of the top reasons is there's drift in the relationship, right?

There's problems in the relationship, so someone who feels lonely, distant, angry, whatever, encounters someone new and maybe maybe the new person maybe the situation also encourages the cheating and they

you know or or maybe there's like an emotional cheating thing happens, a buildup, and then a relationship is formed.

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