Why Willpower Never Beats Addiction. And What Actually Does. | FT Blaine Bartell
Lights On with Carl Lentz
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4.8 • 797 Ratings
🗓️ 1 April 2026
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
If you're a man trapped in a cycle of pornography and shame, email us at hello@carlandlaura.com
In this raw and practical episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz brings back Blaine Bartell for a conversation built for the man who has tried everything and still can't break free. Blaine, founder of House of Resurrection and a man who lost everything to 23 years of sexual addiction, breaks down the exact system that keeps men stuck: the addiction cycle of trigger, crave, cave, and payoff. But more importantly, he reveals the freedom cycle that saved his life and can save yours. Carl and Blaine dismantle the myth that willpower and accountability partners are enough, explain why advocacy and brotherhood heal what policing never could, and give you a step by step playbook you can start today. From the Swiss cheese method of stacking recovery layers to why you don't stop something by stopping something, this episode is a lifeline for any man ready to fight a broken system with a better one. Whether you struggle in silence, love someone who does, or pastor men who will never tell you the truth, this is your blueprint for building a life with nothing to hide.
Drawing from 23 years of marriage and their own journey through betrayal, rebuilding, and recovery, Carl and Laura created Lights On to bring light to the areas of life where we need it most.
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| 0:00.0 | This is a very concentrated, urgent conversation about porn. |
| 0:05.1 | And Blaine Bartel, go back and check. |
| 0:07.3 | He's been on our pod twice. |
| 0:08.7 | He's the first three-time visitor. |
| 0:11.5 | Really? |
| 0:12.0 | I'm honored. |
| 0:12.6 | Thank you. |
| 0:13.4 | And we've talked about his story. |
| 0:15.8 | We've talked about mine. |
| 0:17.7 | Trust me when I say, if there was a man that I trust |
| 0:22.0 | when it comes to learning how to manage |
| 0:24.1 | some of these really hard |
| 0:25.4 | sexually addictive cycles |
| 0:27.8 | it is blame Bartel |
| 0:28.8 | and we live in the same town |
| 0:30.7 | so he is stuck with me |
| 0:31.8 | I mean I was laughing before the show |
| 0:34.2 | I call him as often as I can |
| 0:36.6 | because I never want to do what I do in |
| 0:39.1 | isolation. And when you deal with men, nobody's the same. Nobody. That's why sometimes, you know, |
| 0:45.3 | the way it's done in the past is so wrong because it's like you miss things in people. So if you |
| 0:51.7 | are a man listening today and you struggle with an addiction to pornography, this is for you. |
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