Why We Rush To Solutions & What We Should Do Instead

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality

4.2 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 June 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

We often rush to offer solutions when a loved one expresses emotional distress, not because we don't care, but because it's uncomfortable to witness pain—both theirs and our own. While advice and plans may seem helpful, skipping over empathy and validation can make others feel dismissed or misunderstood. In this episode, the hosts unpack why we default to fixing and offer tools to slow down, connect emotionally first, and ask what support is actually needed. In this episode, we cover topics such as: - Fixing as a Coping Strategy - Forms of Fixing - Impact of Fixing - What to Do Instead - And more! Give Me Discounts! Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift. PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order. Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Sitting quietly once you've made the house all shiny.
0:04.0	Down time can be just fine, playing bangers from the 90s.
0:08.0	Tea break.
0:09.0	Lunch break.
0:10.0	Maybe listen to the outbreak.
0:12.0	Sometimes it's not time for some tombola, right?
0:15.0	It's enjoying lasagna time, chilling with a book time, or time to visit your nan time go on play some other time put your phone down
0:23.8	tombole open for fun terms apply 18 plus gamble aware.org welcome to the year 2000 everyone everywhere is having fun
0:35.1	except me on bbc i player i worry you're growing up too fast yeah we can't be a lot of Everyone is having fun Except me On BBC I player
0:37.9	I worry you're growing up too fast
0:40.2	Yeah we can't be a little duck here forever can I
0:42.8	Inspired by a true story
0:44.6	Walk out this house a boy
0:46.2	One day you'll come back
0:47.5	When you do
0:48.4	You will be a man
0:49.7	I won't hold your breath
0:51.2	What it feels like for a girl
0:53.1	I wish I could look like you.
0:54.6	Bebeah, you can.
0:56.3	Why don't you?
0:57.3	Watch on BBC Eye Player.
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