Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. Before I get into

why we cheat plus what you need to start healing I want to just

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infidelity so I was listening to Esther Perel yeah Esther Perel yesterday

and I don't know if you listen to her but she's pretty amazing and one of the things that I think

makes her so powerful is she's able to turn the rock over you know she's able to shed light on things that we either don't, we just either kind of overlook or that we haven't seen and by doing so gives you a fresh perspective.

And so she was talking about infidelity,

and then I went into my own head and tunnel

of thinking about all the people that I've coached over the years, especially couples, and their struggles with healing from infidelity, you know?

And by the way, infidelity is probably one of the hardest things to overcome when it comes to

to healing and moving on. It's one of the hardest things overcome in a relationship.

And it's kind of obvious why, because, you know, just because you make a decision to forgive

doesn't mean that it's okay.

Like it doesn't mean that it's over and you're going to move on because with

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