Why are narcissistic parents so tough and so hard on their children?

Why?

What goes under the mind of a narcissist when their kids are acting up or their kids are not being exactly how they want them to be?

That's what we're talking about today y'all.

Of course, if you knew here, I'm Lee Hammack. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of the Narcissus Code.

Boom, welcome back, folks. Welcome back, Welcome back. Y'all. I did a one-on-one over Zoom with somebody the other day. And they asked me, it's like, no, let's listen. They said, Lee, why do narcissists that are parents or narcissistic parents just treat their kids so differently? Why are they so bad towards their children? Why do they it sound like they are ashamed of their kids sometimes? I was like that's the perfect word you just

used. Shame. Narcissist parents share the shame of their kids. They look at that when their kids do

things that are against the law or their kids, you have bad grades or kids or get in trouble

or whatever the case may be. Narcissistic parents feel that shame on a personal level

because they see their kids, their children as the reflections of themselves.

Like narcissistic parents, even include myself, we see their children as the reflections of themselves, like narcissistic parents,

even including myself, we see our children as reflections of ourselves. We just do.

It's one of the things that's very difficult to deal with, right? It's very difficult to separate

yourself from, very difficult to separate your children's identity from debt of yourself

when you have a personality

disorder like this because it's so my personality is so rooted in shame and disaster and doing

other stuff it's just like I can't get past it you know like with my son like my say my

oldest son right he's 17 years old now they just say like he he say, like, he, he's a good basketball player,

right? It's just amazing basketball player. Like, I wanted him to go off of the team so back, because I know he could have made a team, but he didn't go off of the team. He has every right not to, right? That's every right, his every right, and I felt bad about that, right? I got angry. I felt the shamed of it. I was like, man, of it I was like man really I was like man

you so good at basketball you could have won't you could have made the team and he didn't just

don't want to play basketball and I realized that my identity was tied to him I was like I'm ashamed

that he didn't go out because I wanted him to play because I could brag on my son being on

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