Why Our Birthdays Don’t Feel the Same, And How to Change That
Over 50 & Flourishing with Dominique Sachse
Dear Media
4.8 • 864 Ratings
🗓️ 18 August 2025
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
Do you look forward to your birthday or secretly dread it?
In this uplifting episode, Dominique sits down with author and life coach Tamar Hurwitz-Fleming to explore the surprising depth and meaning behind birthdays and why they can be a powerful tool for self-love and life reflection.
Tamar shares her personal journey from disappointing birthdays in childhood to discovering how to create joy-filled celebrations that align with the heart, soul, and spirit. Drawing from her book How to Have a Happy Birthday, Tamar offers practical tips to plan the day you truly want, avoid “birthday sabotage,” and embrace your birthday as your own personal New Year.
In this episode, Dominique and Tamar discuss:
- Why many people secretly dislike their birthdays
- How childhood experiences shape adult birthday expectations
- The difference between a “festive” and a “fulfilling” birthday
- Practical strategies for creating the celebration you want
- Why milestone birthdays feel so significant
- Budget-friendly ways to honor yourself
- How birthdays can be spiritual “portals” for connection and reflection
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- Check out her book, How to Have a Happy Birthday: https://tamartamar.com/howtohaveahappybirthday/
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast is a Dear Media production. |
| 0:14.4 | Hello and welcome to over 50 and flourishing. I'm Dominique Soxha and today we are diving into a topic that certainly stirs up a lot more emotion than you might expect. |
| 0:24.0 | Birthdays. For some, it's a time of celebration and joy. For others, a time of anxiety, sadness, even dread. |
| 0:30.8 | My guest today is Tamar Hurwitz Fleming, and she is helping to rewrite the narrative. She is the author of the award-winning book, How to Have a Happy |
| 0:37.9 | Birthday, and she's on a mission to help people reclaim their special day, not with confetti |
| 0:42.9 | and cake alone, but with meaning, purpose, and joy. So whether you love birthdays or you |
| 0:48.1 | secretly loathe them, today's conversation will give you tools to reimagine how you celebrate |
| 0:53.6 | yourself and your life at any age. |
| 0:57.0 | So let's dive in. |
| 1:03.2 | Welcome to over 50 and flourishing tomorrow. It's so good to have you. And what an unusual concept of yours. |
| 1:10.1 | Yeah. Birthdays, you know, we all have them, but we don't actually realize that there's a way to have a happy birthday because a lot of us, believe it or not, don't have happy birthdays. Listen, I believe it. And I think there is so much stress and anxiety that can surround birthdays. So it's an important conversation to have, even though some people might be thinking, oh, well, what's a big deal? It's just a birthday, but it is a big deal because it is the |
| 1:32.1 | celebration of your entrance into the world. I almost feel compelled. You know, this podcast |
| 1:37.8 | will air on a specific date, but then anybody can listen or watch it at any particular time. I almost feel compelled to just |
| 1:45.7 | sing, happy birthday to you. Do anybody listening? Do you want to join me? Let's do it. That's a great idea. |
| 1:51.7 | Okay. Three, two, one. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday dear you. Happy birthday to you. |
| 2:07.6 | Yay. Thank you. Thank you for indulging me. |
| 2:23.5 | I know sometimes the audio, there can be a little disconnect, so I was trying to sync myself to you. |
| 2:27.8 | Anyway, I hope it worked out. So, Tamar, what led to the heart of this? Why? How to have a happy birthday? You know, this |
| 2:37.3 | happened, this idea came to me about 15, 20 years ago. A friend of mine, he was a relatively new |
| 2:42.7 | friend. I knew his birthday was coming up. And I said, hey, what are you doing for your birthday? And he |
| 2:47.1 | said, I don't like my birthday. I said, oh, okay. And I thought he was just like, I had been |
| 2:53.4 | where it's like, you know, no one gave me enough attention. No one made enough of a big deal. |
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