Why Nice Girls Finish Last: The 8 Step Playbook for Women Who Are DONE Being Overlooked | Dr. Thema Bryant PT 2

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Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 10 July 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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In Part 2 of our deep-dive conversation with Dr. Thema Bryant, Lisa Bilyeu continues to explore the essential steps to healing your heart and elevating your sense of self. This episode addresses the complexities of forgiveness—untangling it from forced reconciliation and explaining why wisdom and boundaries are vital in protecting your peace. Dr. Thema also gives actionable advice on how to navigate toxic family dynamics, overcome self-blame, and practice self-compassion. Shifting gears, the discussion heads into the world of dating after heartbreak, with Dr. Thema outlining not just the “red flags,” but—importantly—the “green lights” that indicate healthy, fulfilling relationships. From emotional safety, vulnerability, and self-awareness to fun, balance, and mutual support, she details the traits to seek in both yourself and others for thriving love. The episode wraps with practical tips from Dr. Thema’s book on building authentic connection, loving yourself first, and setting up your life for sustainable joy—no matter where you are in your healing journey. SHOWNOTES 22:05 How society pressures victims, not offenders, about forgiveness 23:55 Why victim-blaming silences survivors 25:19 Navigating fear, guilt, and “forced forgiveness” with parents and partners 28:10 Redefining your role in your family of origin 30:20 How to forgive yourself and practice self-compassion 33:06 Self-sabotage: carrying survival strategies into new seasons 34:59 How awkward and uncomfortable healing can feel 36:11 Venturing into dating: Red flags vs. green lights 36:26 The 15 green light traits for healthy relationships 39:24 Do political and core beliefs matter in compatibility? 41:24 Navigating vulnerability—being open without manipulation 45:06 Physical and emotional safety as the foundation of intimacy 48:26 Time, investment, and sustaining connection 51:27 Balancing independence and togetherness 54:06 Spotting when a partner is undermining your shine 56:57 Negotiating happiness and when "hard work" is the wrong kind 59:12 Tactical steps to "upgrade your love life": Daily self-love, nature, boundaries, creativity, affirmation, routines, and more 1:04:25 Where to find Dr. Thema Bryant and resources for deeper healing FOLLOW DR. THEMA BRYANT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.thema Website: https://www.drtaymabryant.com Podcast: The Homecoming Podcast CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:58.5	What up, my homie. Welcome back to part two with a brilliant Dr. Tame O'Brien. She's a
1:03.7	psychologist, a trauma expert and a spiritual powerhouse. And yesterday we talked about the wounds
1:09.7	that portrayal, rejection, and banment
1:11.4	leaves behind matter who it's coming from, whether that's a partner, a friend, the bestie,
1:17.4	all the people that, let's be honest, are supposed to love us, supposed to respect us,
1:22.1	supposed to treat us well, not take our heart and freaking shatter it into pieces.
1:29.7	So today, we're actually talking about healing.
1:33.4	Because no matter how much confidence you think you have,
1:37.0	I'm telling you, if you don't mend the broken heart,
1:41.9	if you don't heal from the past, I'm going to be honest, crap that happened to you,
1:43.8	of course you're not going to be able to move on.
1:44.5	Of course you're going to have moments where something dent your confidence and you fall back to your knees. So healing
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