If You Always Feel Like the ‘Bad Guy’—You Might Be Getting Gaslit. Here’s How to Set Boundaries That Stick | Nedra Glover Tawwab (Fan Fav)

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4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 11 July 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m diving deep with licensed therapist and boundary-building powerhouse Nedra Glover Tawwab to break down the sneaky, destructive patterns of gaslighting and how you can take your power back. If you’ve ever questioned your own sanity, found yourself apologizing when it’s not your fault, or felt stuck replaying “should have said” conversations in your head—this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. With Nedra’s signature clarity, honesty, and actionable advice, we cover how to spot manipulation in real time, the critical difference between assertiveness and aggression, the core role childhood plays in our conflict style, and—most importantly—how to cultivate the unshakeable confidence to set boundaries and reclaim your peace. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – The subtle signs of gaslighting and how to spot manipulative behaviors early 00:53 – Building the confidence to stand up for yourself in toxic relationships 02:12 – Why questioning your own sanity may signal gaslighting—and how to reality-check yourself 05:23 – The hidden cost of always apologizing (even when it’s not your fault) 07:35 – Classic gaslighting tactics: Deflection, lack of apology, and rewriting history 10:47 – The danger of taking on all the blame: Patterns, self-betrayal, and breaking the cycle 14:59 – How Nedra found the courage to finally stop apologizing for things that weren’t hers 19:54 – Nedra’s “practice makes progress” approach to building assertiveness 23:27 – Assertive vs. aggressive: How to stand up for yourself without crossing the line (and what to do when you’re unfairly labeled) 27:58 – Breaking free from people-pleasing: Owning your preferences and ditching the need to “win” every fight FOLLOW NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawab/ Website: https://www.nedratawab.com/ Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.nedratawab.com/set-boundaries-find-peace CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:50.4	Today, licensed therapist, Nedroglova Tawab is here in helping us identify gaslighting behaviors and the signs to look out for.
0:59.5	When you get to a space in your relationships where things are unhealthy and you're questioning yourself and you haven't done anything, that is a time to consider, is this gaslighting?
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