Why Modern Dating Feels So Frustrating (And What To Do Instead) | Rewind
Love Life With Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.7 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 17 April 2026
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
Dating apps can make it feel like we’re competing with endless options… while somehow no one is actually trying.
In this episode, Matthew explores the frustrating reality of modern dating—why people seem flaky, why effort feels one-sided, and how dating apps can distort your perception of rejection and connection.
But what if the problem isn’t that no one is trying… it’s that everyone is waiting? Matthew breaks down how a small shift in your approach can change everything and how to know when it’s time to stop investing altogether.
If dating apps have been leaving you discouraged or emotionally drained, this episode will help you approach dating with more confidence and intention.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey everyone, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. Thank you so much for being here. |
| 0:09.3 | I think you're going to enjoy this clip. It's a classic from the archives. Check it out and I'll speak to you at the end of the episode. |
| 0:19.9 | I thought it'd be good just to sort of do a bit of a state of unions right now and talk about where people are in dating and then maybe talk about some of the perils of dating apps. How does that sound? |
| 0:32.9 | A little half-time talk for 2021. I like that. Yeah. Let's see where people are at, get a temperature and, um, and offer perhaps some, |
| 0:41.9 | some valuable advice as people go into a world where maybe they're still a bit tentative |
| 0:46.7 | and also battling some of the problems of dating apps, which maybe we can start here, |
| 0:52.2 | are that there's so much bloody choice, or at least it seems. |
| 0:58.1 | You know, it probably is the worst of all worlds in some people's eyes, because it feels like |
| 1:03.4 | there's not a lot of choice when it comes to choosing. |
| 1:07.2 | Like it feels like, God, everyone's flaky. People aren't actually trying. |
| 1:11.8 | It's the minimum possible effort being put in by these people, or as we call it, the MPI guy, minimum possible investment. |
| 1:20.5 | And yet, they on the other side, seem to have endless choice. |
| 1:26.4 | And that makes me feel like there's a sea of people I can't |
| 1:30.6 | possibly compete with in quote, winning the dating game. So what are your thoughts on that, |
| 1:36.7 | Steve, on just the fact that people just feel like, how do I possibly compete with all the options |
| 1:41.4 | people seem to have these days? Yeah, I'm trying to think when I am on, if I'm using dating apps and I'm out there, |
| 1:48.7 | do I think of competition? |
| 1:51.0 | I certainly think of the fact that people can ignore you very easily and that it's very, |
| 1:56.8 | like people are just not very invested when they match with you. |
| 2:00.0 | And so it can make you take rejection a lot harder because you feel like, |
| 2:07.6 | oh, I match with them and then suddenly they stopped talking to me. |
| 2:10.6 | So what did I do wrong? |
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