All right, let's set the scene. It's Sunday night. It's summer. You get home way later than you wanted to with your kids. You walk into your door and immediately it hits you. You walk into that Amazon box. You told yourself you would return and now you know what's one more thing on your list. You keep walking and oh my goodness. You forgot to put the laundry into the dryer and it's just been sitting there soaking and

it smells. Then when you finally get to the kitchen, there is your kids camp lunchbox. Not unpacked.

You open. There's a half-eaten sandwich and as you throw it in the garbage, you want to scream out and

explode and your whole world feels like it's collapsing on you.

If mess is triggering for you, if it feels like those dishes in the sink or that water bottle that's under the couch or those bags in front of you that, yeah, in theory, you could could unpack later but you literally just can't sit

on the couch and watch a TV show until it's already done if that feels like oh my goodness that

is what is happening in my brain and my body all the time i promise you you're not alone

there's nothing wrong with you and this is an episode you need to finish.

And then maybe save. Also send to a friend so you can talk about it. I am right there with you.

I am in part talking about this for myself. Mess, visual clutter.

Oh, my goodness, it brings up so much for me,

and I want to explore it with you.

I'm Dr. Becky, and this is good inside.

We'll be back right after this.

Thank you. Why is mess so triggering for us?

Okay, there's actually a couple reasons.

I think that when we have this visual mess, the sink is full, I don't know, the sand is

everywhere, the clothes are still in the

laundry basket, even though we wanted to do laundry before the end of the day. Why it stirs up so

much in so many of us. Number one, in general, our triggers are our teachers. I'm going to say that again, it really matters. Our triggers are our teachers. I'm going to say that again. It really matters. Our

triggers are our teachers. That might be a new idea because if you're like most of us, we think

our triggers are a sign of something being wrong with us. They're not. They're really trying to

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