So you've heard me talk about deeply feeling kids and our deeply feeling kids approach,

but I promise you you haven't heard this.

A lot of you have asked me to speak more about my own personal experience,

parenting my deeply feeling kid before I had a sense that she was a deeply feeling kid,

what my journey was like in the stages where I had a sense that she was a deeply feeling kid. What my journey was like in the stages where

I had no idea what was going on when I felt completely in the dark, when I felt like something

was wrong with my kid, something was wrong with me. Everything that, yes, ended up leading to

this deeper understanding, this new approach, this whole deeply feeling could program,

and so much more before. The kind of real personal stuff. I asked you the specific questions

you wanted answered and boy, did you deliver. So I'm joined by Brooke on my team. She's been with me for a long time. She's a producer

on this podcast. And she's going to ask me some of kind of the hardest, most personal questions.

And I am really looking forward to sharing this part of my story with you. I'm Dr. Becky,

and this is good inside.

We'll be back right after this. Hi, Becky. Hi, Brock. I'm so excited to be here today and do things a little bit different.

Kind of pull back the curtain on your own experience, parenting a deeply feeling kid, all that's come from it since.

And before we dive in, for anyone who's newer or less familiar with the term deeply feeling kid,

can you just give a quick recap? What is a deeply feeling kid? Yeah, I mean, this really, this term came up because, like, I had my first kid, and I don't want to make it seem like it was all easy, like tantrums, the whole thing that happens with, you know, one year olds, two year olds, they want things, they melt down. All that was happening. But I felt pretty good about how I was showing up and how I'd hold boundaries and how I'd connect and validate while holding the boundary. And it's not like

I did that. And he ever said, that was really helpful. Thank you. Never. But all I can say is like the

arc, the arc, arched. Like it was like, okay. And then he did start to calm down. And I sensed it was working, not because he didn't have a tantrum. And not because he calmed down right away. But I felt like I am giving you something you need right now. And it will just take some time to fully show up. I knew that was happening. In my private practice, I was doing a lot of this work. I was coming up with new ideas at the time. And parents like, this is amazing. I'm trying this. You're right. It's so much better than timeouts. And

I'm not punishing, but behaviors changing faster, all the things. And then there were like

this subset of parents. And it wasn't insignificant who'd say something very different.

It's making everything worse. Like it helps with one of my kids, not the other. And I have to be honest, like, the back of my head, the first thought

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