Why I Can Only Orgasm Alone (But Not With Partners)

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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0:00.0	We have to remember that we get to decide in our relationships what we want, what feels good.
0:06.0	It's common for people to be enmeshed in a relationship. Let's do things on our own individual.
0:11.3	Our sex exists. You have to remind you it is important to connect with yourself as a sexual being
0:15.8	independently. You're listening to Sex with Emily.
0:22.6	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
0:26.5	around sex.
0:27.3	We've got another juicy hotline calls episode for you today, and I'm so grateful for how
0:31.0	vulnerable and thoughtful your questions are.
0:32.9	You're normalizing these sex conversations for all of us.
0:35.9	Today, my producer, Erica, and I are answering questions about orgasming alone but never
0:40.6	with partners, humiliation kinks, which are way more common than you think.
0:44.4	What it means when you catch your partner on interactive sex sites and feeling guilty
0:48.2	for masturbating when you're in a relationship?
0:50.8	These questions get to the heart of what so many of us struggle with, neural pathways that
0:54.7	get wired one way, kinks were afraid to share, and the shame that still surrounds solo pleasure
0:59.7	even when we're partnered.
1:01.2	This episode is about permission.
1:03.3	Permission to teach your pleasure to multiple partners.
1:06.2	Permission to have kinks and permission to prioritize masturbation as self-care, not betrayal.
1:12.2	All right, let's get into the episode.
1:16.3	This is Charlie.
1:19.3	She's a female, 37 in Ohio.
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