You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I am going to be answering the question of why healthy

relationships can sometimes feel boring particularly if you've not had many

healthy relationships and so you're coming into maybe your first ever

healthy stable secure a relationship after a stream of really dysfunctional turbulent

unhealthy relationships. This is something that a lot of people experience. There can be this

almost unsettling discomfort of being in a relationship where there's no drama and chaos and we can

either feel that as a form of low-level anxiety or

maybe a loss of attraction or kind of disinterest in our partner because they're

so stable and reliable and available to us and we're used to chasing someone who isn't.

So there's lots to unpack there and I'm going to be talking about that today, you know, why unhealthy

relationships can be so addictive even though it's ostensibly the opposite of what we say we want.

There's something within us that chases that drama and that you know inconsistency and that unpredictability and what you can do if you

find yourself kind of uncomfortable with a healthy stable relationship rather than

just pulling away or sabotaging it because it feels unfamiliar to you.

You'll be offering some tips for you to hopefully get through those growing pains so that you can

continue with and maybe not let go of the healthy relationship

that you've worked so hard to find.

That's what I'm going to be talking about today.

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