Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 18 December 2023

⏱️ 75 minutes

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Summary

Why do you love the way that you love? How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)? Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life. Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships. Topics discussed include: • How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself) • What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types • How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do • What love is supposed to look like • How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting • The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?) • How to figure out your attachment style • How to make your attachment style “secure” • The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs” • The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser • How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships • How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships • The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner • What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting • How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships You can purchase Thais’s latest book, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory, here:https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG Follow Thais Gibson: Instagram:instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool YouTube:youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: https://bit.ly/45OWCNr Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt Follow Mel: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/49bg4GP LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB TikTok: https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v Sign up for my newsletter https://bit.ly/46PVnPs Want more resources? Go to the episode page here. Episode Webpage: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-130 Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
0:03.6	I just want to start out by saying,
0:09.2	thank you, thank you, thank you for being here with me.
0:11.3	I know that when you are here with me and you're
0:15.0	do it as a way to invest in yourself.
0:17.9	And I think that's super cool.
0:19.6	And that is why I am really excited for the conversation that you're about to hear because this one is a really, really good one.
0:29.0	What are we talking about? We're talking about something called attachment theory. And the reason why I wanted you to learn about
0:36.8	attachment theory is because this framework has helped me profoundly in my marriage,
0:44.0	it's helped me in my relationship with my kids,
0:46.6	frankly it's helped me in every relationship that I have
0:49.8	because understanding my attachment style has allowed me to really show up in a different way, in a more powerful and secure way.
0:59.0	And I think it's going to help you too.
1:01.0	Now, if you've never heard about attachment style there are four different
1:05.8	attachment styles. You're going to learn in detail about all four attachment styles and I love the expert that I have for you today. Her name is
1:14.8	Taius Gibson. She has a brand new book out called Learning Love and one of the
1:20.1	reasons why I like the way that she explains attachment theory is she gets into the nitty-gritty.
1:26.2	You're not only going to understand the four different attachment styles, she will explain things like,
1:30.6	okay, if you text someone and they don't text back for three hours, this is
1:38.0	how you will act based on your attachment style.
1:41.1	She's also going to give you scripts, she's going to give you strategies, and she's going to teach you that you can change your attachment style. You can become more secure.
1:50.0	Now, when I told our team that Tice Gibson was coming into our new studios in Boston,
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