Why Do I Call Breakups Expired Relationships?

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 10 February 2023

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

In today's episode, John explains his reframe of "break up" to "expired relationship" and why it's helpful. He tried to explain on Dax Shepard's Armchair Expert Podcast but John mentioned the time he had sex with a plum when he was twelve, and of course that topic got side tracked. He assures he will not talk about plums in this episode. Instead, go deeper on the reframe and how to get to acceptance, the first step in starting the healing journey after an expired relationship.

Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own
0:04.3	rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life
0:08.9	lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose
0:16.2	because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.
0:21.6	Why do I call breakups expired relationships? I get this question often. I'm actually
0:29.2	working on a new book that is why I am doing this inside a hotel room.
0:33.6	I'm on what I call a writing leave,
0:36.2	bearing myself into my words for three days
0:40.8	to get a jumpstart.
0:42.8	So first I want to say that I understand
0:46.8	that a relationship is not something
0:51.3	we should compare to milk, you know, to say that a relationship has expired, I think can be minimizing, I think it could be borderline disrespectful.
1:00.0	Even if the relationship was toxic, even if the relationship was unhealthy, it's still two people with, you know, good intentions who did the best they could with where they were at.
1:11.0	And so to say that your relationship has expired I
1:15.1	understand can be a bit wrong you, distasteful.
1:24.0	I remember I was on a Dax Shepherds armchair expert podcast and he saw one of my videos and I know that he disagreed with calling relationships expired and I think
1:39.4	you know he had something to say about that. I remember his eyes turned a little bit sideways
1:46.9	and he questioned why I call breakups expired relationships but before we got into it and I wanted to know I
1:55.1	wanted to know is very curious what he thought because obviously he didn't agree and
1:58.8	before we got into it I I don't know why or how I said this, but I let him know that when I was 12, I had sex with a plumb.
2:09.0	And of course, that threw a wrench in the conversation and suddenly we're talking about a curious 12-year-old knowing that it didn't feel like apple pie.
2:22.0	Anyway, so I get I get people questioning why I would call a breakup an
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