Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Why do I call breakups expired relationships? I get this question often. I'm actually

working on a new book that is why I am doing this inside a hotel room.

I'm on what I call a writing leave,

bearing myself into my words for three days

to get a jumpstart.

So first I want to say that I understand

that a relationship is not something

we should compare to milk, you know, to say that a relationship has expired, I think can be minimizing, I think it could be borderline disrespectful.

Even if the relationship was toxic, even if the relationship was unhealthy, it's still two people with, you know, good intentions who did the best they could with where they were at.

And so to say that your relationship has expired I

understand can be a bit wrong you, distasteful.

I remember I was on a Dax Shepherds armchair expert podcast and he saw one of my videos and I know that he disagreed with calling relationships expired and I think

you know he had something to say about that. I remember his eyes turned a little bit sideways

and he questioned why I call breakups expired relationships but before we got into it and I wanted to know I

wanted to know is very curious what he thought because obviously he didn't agree and

before we got into it I I don't know why or how I said this, but I let him know that when I was 12, I had sex with a plumb.

And of course, that threw a wrench in the conversation and suddenly we're talking about a curious 12-year-old knowing that it didn't feel like apple pie.

Anyway, so I get I get people questioning why I would call a breakup an

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