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Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Why “Be Yourself” is Awful Advice

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.82.9K Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2017

⏱️ 4 minutes

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Summary

“Be yourself.” To most people, this means, “you’re perfect, just as you are.” (Or, at worst, it’s considered a harmless cliché.) But I believe this is awful advice, and in today’s LOVE Life I’m going to tell you why. By the end of my rant – ahem, by the end of this episode – you’ll discover the mindset that will actually allow you to stretch beyond the “you” you always have been, and to grow, achieve, and become the absolute best version of “yourself.”

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0:00.0

Hello everybody, this is Matthew Hussie with Love Life.

0:05.4

Do you know the number one most powerful technique you can use to get any man addicted to

0:10.4

you and only you?

0:12.9

Take a second to see if you can figure it out.

0:16.9

Don't worry if you can't guess what it is.

0:19.1

It's simple to use, but it's also easy to overlook, which is why most women will never

0:24.4

use it.

0:25.4

I'll tell you what this subtle trick is in just a moment.

0:29.4

But first, let's get to the episode.

0:33.8

Today I want to talk about why I think the advice be yourself is awful, terrible advice.

0:43.3

I remember when I used to back before I even had an organisation that coached women in

0:48.1

their love lives.

0:49.1

I used to coach guys and I was at that stage where I would coach people privately as well

0:54.2

and I used to take guys out and actually get them more confident by going up to women

1:01.9

and talking to women.

1:03.6

And the thing that would always happen is I would see other coaches who are doing something

1:07.8

similar tell guys, well, you know what, when you go up to that person over there, just

1:12.5

be yourself.

1:13.5

And every time I used to watch this, I used to cringe because they might be talking

1:17.4

to a guy who right now has never, he's never said like a line that made her go, you're

1:23.3

a really great person or that's really a smooth line.

1:26.9

He has no idea what to say.

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