Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 20 July 2023

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them. It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in...

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0:00.0	You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience
0:09.9	relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome
0:15.6	insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.
0:20.1	I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.
0:26.0	Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.
0:29.7	In today's episode, we're going to be talking all about why toxic or dysfunctional, unhealthy
0:35.3	relationships are so hard to recover from.
0:39.3	So this is one of those areas where it's really counterintuitive. You would think that a relationship
0:45.7	that's been a bit of a train wreck, a bit of a shit show, is something that
0:50.3	you're going to leave and feel this big sigh of relief, put it behind you and suddenly you're free of all of that drama and you can move on with your life and be better for it.
1:03.0	While that is what it feels like it should be on paper,
1:07.0	the reality of it is often much messier than that.
1:10.0	And as I said, counterintuitively, I think that we can struggle a lot more to detach from and make sense of these really dysfunctional dynamics
1:21.6	compared with if we were moving on from a breakup of a relationship
1:26.8	that was broadly healthy and stable. You'd think that those ones would be the ones that
1:30.8	we'd really struggle to let go of of but that's generally not the case.
1:35.2	So I'm going to be unpacking why that is, why it's such a common experience to really struggle
1:41.7	to not only leave and let go of these dysfunctional relationships as in getting to the point of breaking up,
1:47.0	but why the aftermath can feel so confusing and disorienting.
1:52.0	And I'm hoping that in doing that it will not only normalize that experience if you've been in that or maybe you're in it at the moment and you're wondering you know what's wrong with me. I know rationally that that relationship was really
2:04.1	unhealthy for me and yet I feel so consumed by thinking about it and playing out
2:09.8	all of the what-ifs and all those scenarios, but also that it'll give you some tools to really give
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